Time Management

We all wish we had more time in a day, right? In fact, if I elaborate to much on that thought, time will be ticking away, and I’d be wasting your time:)

In a culture on information overload. 40,000 messages a day. Probably more for some of us? How do you manage time wisely?

The first thing that may encourage your life in regards to time management  is……CHILL OUT! Your journey to managing your time is first realizing that everybody is on this journey, and that no one has it perfectly figured out. No one!!! Sure, there are people that are much better time managers than you or me, and they can teach us a thing or two, but the reality is….their still growing and learning. Get ready to get better, but don’t beat yourself up.

So….first thing in time management….CHILL OUT & enjoy the journey (Life is really about the Journey, not the Time). The fact that you’re even reading this and care about time management, tells me that you’re going to get better, and move to application eventually. Good for you!

What Are You Looking For?

As I’ve been writing and drafting behind the scenes, I’m curious about what blog readers are looking for? Are you looking for a specific topics (aka…death, health, leadership, relationships, etc??)? Are you looking for bottom line thinking? Are you looking for influential, already published people? What makes you return to a blog? Is it consistency in writing? Is it the content? Is it all the above? What is highly influential in the blog world, and why?

Why am I asking? Not wanting to waste my time writing to a culture that doesn’t exist, or to people that aren’t interested in what I’m writing about. Is that fair thinking?

Any tips from the pros?

The Death Of Intimacy #1

Intimacy as I’m going to define it is: “Warm, close, friendship.” At the core of humanity we desire that. Some consciously, some unconsciously, but it’s from the time of man’s creation, that God wired us for intimacy.

So….. where does intimacy die? Why is the world laden with relational graveyards? What is the number 1 killer of relationships? Secrecy!

“Where secrets live, intimacy dies.” Where intimacy lives, secrets die.” It’s true for all relationships. For warm, close, friendship to occur, we must learn to be vulnerable. We must move to live authentically. From those we truly desire to have warm, close, friendships with, we must come out of the closet of secrecy, and share our thoughts, feelings, insights, and not be scared to be honest.

So what’s holding you back? God desires you & me to live intimate lives, not only with others, but with Him as well. Not living intimately with anyone? Living only partially intimate? You are being robbed of God’s best for you. In fact, secrecy can be so subtle, that intimacy may be dying a slow death in your life?

So how do you move from secrecy to intimacy?

What Normal Is!

I was driving the country-side back from Chicago on Saturday. It was peaceful. I drove by a house that looked like the American dream. You know, the house that has acreage in the country,  with a well manicured lawn, fresh paint, beautiful front porch, 3 car garage, and a semi-friendly dog sitting in the yard. In that moment I was gripped by the reality that my life does not have a hint of normalcy. What does that even mean? Do you live a normal life?

Maybe some of you try to live as close to normal as you think possible? Get up in the morning, brew the coffee, shower, brush your teeth, read the paper (people still do that:), drive to work, go to lunch, finish your day out, and then head home. The hope is, a nice dinner on the patio, maybe finishing out your evening with a conversation with your spouse, and or children. You lay your head on your pillow that night with hopes that tomorrow could be as normal as your now completed day. Interested?

Here’s normal for me. 5:45 A.M. the alarm goes off. I’m not interested in getting up, but I still do. I’m tired from going to bed at midnight because I could not turn my mind off. Now, I make my way around to the kids rooms. One, maybe two, march to the beat of the same drum. Inevitably though, a few end up with morning crisis (Cannot find a shoe, sock, a paper that needed to be signed has gone missing, or a brush has somehow spontaneously vanished:). By the time I make it downstairs, sibling tension has already risen and you can cut the air. I don’t need coffee, I need meds:) The ride to school wreaks of Alpha zone. I call it “One Up Time” (The time every-child tries to make sure that their siblings do not exit the car without their inadequacies being exposed). By the time I’m headed to the office, I am not looking for blood-pressure medicine, I am looking for a nitro pill. Is that normal?:)

6 1/2. That is how many hrs I have before our family is reunited after school. Homework is nearly always embraced with cheers of joy, and chores are more like little vacations for my children. Do you believe that? I feel more like General Schwarzkopf, than a father. Oh, and my children never leave trails of food, clothes, school supplies, etc…:)) Dinner? Good-luck!  Oh, and bedtime is always met with praised filled exaltation:) Ah….yeah??!!

Between sermons/speaking, leadership lessons, blogging, being a husband, counseling, yard work, sick-parents/children, broken down vehicles, follow-up phone calls & e-mails, strategic thinking, etc….. Somewhere in that space. Somewhere? There is normal. Right? When you find normal, write a book! Because I have yet to find “What Normal is.”

Hey, just got a call from Angel. Alternator took out on our new KIA. Delayed for another day in KC. Nice!!!!

Questions To Think About #2

Sitting in Cesar’s Plaza in Cochabamba, Bolivia. Not quite Caesars Palace in Vegas, but it is what it is:)

This week will wrap up a series of leadership conferences Scott Larsen and myself have been doing across the country. This trip to Bolivia has been particularly strategic, because we officially launched www.equipbolivia.org.  Apart from Equip Atlanta, there is currently no other country that has launched an official Equip Leadership organization. We will model, teach, train, and equip other countries around the world to launch there own leadership orgs. The stakes are getting high, and I cannot wait to see what God is going to do through equipped leaders.

Achieving your potential as a leader comes from making progress. I believe your progress is only one God idea away, but you must take time to think. Let me give you questions I have written to ask government officials, pastors, business leaders, as we have had Q & A panels at all of our conferences. I love the insight these leaders give us. Questions so often are catalytic, and will get your thinking juices flowing.

Note: I would love to hear how you answer these questions, and I would also like to know your leadership insight on them?

1. Are you a possibility thinker, or do you tend to think more negatively? Undoubtedly leaders will face negative people. How have you handled negative people in your circles of influence?

2. Have you ever been a part of a negative thinking team? What were the results of that team?

3. Does being a Christian in your area of influence play a large role in how you have lead over the years? How so?

4. Are you a reflective thinker? How imperative is it, that leaders take time to do reflective thinking? When was the last time you stopped to reflect about your past, current, and future leadership?

5. Are you surrounded by people that think differently than you? Is it important to have leaders around you, that think differently than you? Have you created environments where people feel they are safe, and can express their different ideas to you?

6. As you advance as a leader and in your influence, leaders many times forget how they arrived there. How do you keep yourself from not forgetting servant leadership as your influence grows?

7. How do you keep learning as a regular part of your life? Give examples. Are there any current authors you are reading that you would recommend to us?

8. Have you had anyone mentor you? Who? What impact has it made on your life? Are you currently mentoring anyone?

9. What is the bottom line for your life? Do you know why you are doing what you are doing in your life?

10. Have you ever had to lead teams to bottom line thinking? What is your personal process? Do you find it challenging or easy to lead people to a clear, focused, bottom line mission?

The above questions alone, should give you a great platform to personally teach others, or possibly learn from trusted leaders who could answer the above questions for you. Commit a couple of the questions to memory and when you get a chance to dialogue with someone you would really like to learn from, ask them a few. You will be surprised what you learn. Lead on!!!

Questions To Think About

Applied thinking is arguably one of the greatest untapped weapons in a leaders arsenal. You can think without leading, but to lead effectively you must become a good thinker. Notice I said become. Good thinking can be learned. I don’t think it should ever stop until you lose your mind:)

Good thinking creates the foundation for good results. It increases your potential. It also creates more good thinking if you make it a habit. You get the value…right?

Last night I spoke on Big-Picture thinking, Focused thinking, Creative thinking, Realistic thinking, and Strategic thinking. On top of speaking, I’ve begun to implement panels (people of influence brought on stage, asked questions by me, to ultimately have the crowd glean from the insights of good leaders that are impacting culture around them.) I have found this to be a very effective model of learning, not only for me, but for those listening.

I covered a lot of terrain with the questions I asked, but I believe they are noteworthy for you to answer, or possibly ask people that you may be looking for insight from. Use the questions that most apply to you.

1. Where you raised to think positively? How has it affected you to this day? Do you tend to be a positive thinker or a negative thinker?

2. In certain environments have you had to change your thinking over the years? What impact has the changed thinking made?

3. Do you have a certain thinking place? How often do you use that place?

4. Do you tend to be a Big-Picture thinker, or someone who tends to get bogged down in details? Do you have any personal fail to see the big picture examples? Was the impact positive or negative?

5. What is a dream God has placed on your heart? Do you feel capable of accomplishing it? How long have you been focusing on this dream?

6. Part of my focused thinking process over the years has been calling influential people I trust. Do you have a circle of trusted people you could call or meet with, to help bring focus to your life?

7.  In your profession, how critical is creative thinking? Do you find creative thinkers hard to find? Does age matter when it comes to creative thinkers around the table of leadership? How have you been praised, or how have you praised creative thinkers over the years?

8.  Do you tend to be more of a fact person or a dreamer? Have you ever had a dream that someone shot down? How did you handle that?

9.  Agree or disagree: Realistic thinkers must have a teachable attitude? Give an example.

10. Does your calendar include specific blocks of time for strategic thinking? Why or why not?

11. What are you currently doing that is not strategic for you? Assess how many hours you are working in your areas of weakness, rather than in your areas of strength.

12. What are your personal strengths? Compare those strengths to where you are investing your time. What changes do you think need to be made in order to become more strategic with your life?

A word of caution to Christian leaders: Isaiah reminds all of us of the utmost importance of seeking the guidance of the Holy Spirit as we lead.  We must make sure our plans fit God’s revealed will for us, our churches, or places of business. Always ask if your plans are relevant to the needs of your mission, values, vision, and ultimately your long-range objectives. Seeking the Holy Spirit’s guidance as a leader is one of the wisest things your could ever do as a leader.

Focused Thinking

I spent most of the day in preparation for Equip conferences that will kick off tomorrow night. I tend to work better under pressure. How about you? In fact, I find that I get very focused when I’m under the gun. I’m learning to focus much further out from my deadlines, but for now here’s what I can tell you.

When you Focus, you have a lot more potential for seeing or obtaining your goals. Example: A magnifying glass can take something very small and so enlarge it, that you can tell what your reading or looking at. That is the same way it is with focusing. It tends to magnify something that might not have been so important to you before, but now that your really focusing intently on it, you can see its importance. Note: To much magnifying could fry you to:)  Key = Balance.

I have found that we do need to learn to concentrate our thinking for prolonged periods of time in order to successfully conquer difficult challenges. I have seen many people achieve what they long thought impossible when they learned how to focus their thinking on areas of life that really matter.

Ok…..focus with me for just a minute.  What matters to you? How do you determine what matters to you? If you will truly focus on these next statements I’m about to make, I believe they may be life altering for you.

1. Identify your priorities in life. Focus on that for little bit!!!! I would not exceed more than 10, because that could be a little bit overwhelming, and you would probably lose your focus anyway:)

2. Discover your strengths.  What are you good at? Who do people you really trust, say your good at? Play to those strengths. Chances are, God placed you on this earth to utilize those strengths through you. Just sayin!!!

3. Develop your dream. This will take some time to focus and write down, short term goals, intermediate goals, and your long term dream goals. Key, all the goals should drive you toward your dream/s.

Last questions. Do you believe God has priorities for you? If so, don’t you think it would be worth taking a few hours, if not days, weeks, or months, to Focus your thinking, and find out what they are? You will never regret it.  Don’t waste your life!!!

Equip Bolivia Update

Sitting in La Paz, BO at Alexander’s Coffee Shop (one of my favorites), debriefing after a 3 hr EquipLeadersBolivia board of directors meeting. Let me give you quick update of what is taking place.

1. After 5 years and just over 40,000 leaders being trained in Bolivia, tomorrow night we officially launch “EquipBolivia” (website to come). We are still based out of Atlanta, GA (Equip), but we are making movement to get partner organizations around the globe. We already have Peru, Chile, and some other country leaders wanting to launch their own leadership initiatives. Pray for us.

2. Today we voted on the President, VP’s, Executive directors, as well as secretary, and treasurer positions. Very neat to see the evolution of a movement.

3. On top of voting on roles, and establishing protocol, we also went over the agenda for tomorrow night. We will have around 200 influential Latin American leaders coming to hear the fresh vision of Equip Bolivia.  Equip Bolivia will be privately training leaders in (Churches/Ministries), secularly training leaders in(businesses/government), and launching a School of Leadership for Latin America. Here’s the key to success: Partnerships.

4. Because of the potential reach of Equip Bolivia, it is imperative that we have trained and equipped (Associate Trainers).  We currently have 10 in training, and are looking to broaden that base.  Especially as we begin to roll forward. I can’t wait till our AT’s are all over Latin America doing what we have been training them in for about 2 years now. I’m thinking a book is order to share the journey, and give our AT’s more credibility.  By God’s grace it will happen!!

Ahhhhhh Espresso time………..

Equip Leaders

Interested in equipping leaders around the globe? Here’s a glimpse into the organization “Equip” (Founded by Dr. John C. Maxwell), that I have been working with for the last 7 years. Why not join the initiative!!

Intentional Thinking

I have found that so many people never get off of life’s fast moving train to stop and take time to think. How about you? If you would, I think you would find it very life-giving.

Becoming a good thinker isn’t necessarily complicated, but it does require discipline. Like most disciplines, it can be cultivated and refined. Let me give you a process I have learned for discovering and developing good thoughts in my life. I have also asked @nrcfamily staff to implement this idea to a higher degree, by taking at least a day a month to get alone with God, listen, and let Him renew their thoughts for the whole day. Try it. I think you will find it harder than you think:)

First: Find a place to think your thoughts. I’m talking taking time out for solitude. I call it the “Alone Zone!” Mark 6:46

Second: Find a place to evaluate your thoughts. Write them down. Ask yourself if you thinking is positive or negative in nature. Luke 6:45

Third: Find a place to stretch your thoughts by sharing them with other good thinkers. You where created to have a personal relationship with God through Jesus Christ, but He never desired that your relationship would remain private. You are to share your life. Question: How would you start this for yourself? Think about it!!

Fourth: Find a place to put your thoughts into action. To grow in knowledge and understanding, but then to not have any outlet to share that knowledge, would be a waste to me. So many people have thoughts, but few will put them into action. Don’t waste your life!

It doesn’t matter if you are rich or poor. It doesn’t matter if you are educated or uneducated. It doesn’t matter if you are the picture of health or suffer from multiple disabilities. No matter what your circumstances, you can learn to be a good thinker. “Good thinking, given by God, put into action, is truly life-transformative.”

Key: The only requirement to become an intentional thinker is…….. to be willing to engage in the process every day.

I’m curious. Do you have a special thinking place? Where is it?

 

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